Conflict without Violence
All humans in this world, including us, must have experienced conflict. Whether it’s a conflict with family members, neighbors, friends, teachers, or anyone else. Conflict is actually something natural. As long as we relate or communicate with others, then the potency of conflict will exist. However, the way we resolve conflict may be different. If we deal with conflict wrongly, then it can be more complicated. Otherwise a right way to resolve conflict will make a better relationship.
From Prophet Muhammad, we must learn about how to transform a conflict. In the early history of Islam, it is narrated that after the Kaaba, the cube-shaped building used as the center of worship, was flooded and renovated, some leaders of Arabic tribes were confused about who was the most entitled person to move Hajar Aswad – a black stone believed coming from Heaven – into the Kaaba (it is usually placed in the corner side of Kaaba). Almost all leaders argued and claimed that they were the most entitled person to move the holy stone. It was said that the tension of their debate was high and it almost caused a fight. Finally, the young Muhammad suggested to place the stone on a white cloth and each Arabic leader might hold the cloth’s edge and brought it into the Kaaba. Everyone agreed and felt that Muhammad’s suggestion was a win-win solution. Fight and bloodshed due to the conflict could finally be avoided. Had there been no concrete solution from Muhammad, it was likely that the conflict would produce violence.
From that case, we can see that Prophet Muhammad had transformed the conflict positively. Neither undermine one tribe nor exaggerate it. He did not run away from conflict but faced it directly. He understood that if it was not resolved, the conflict would bring violence or war.
Another way that can be done to resolve an individual conflict is to talk face to face. However it requires an open mind and emotional control. However, perhaps not everyone has the courage or confidence to talk about conflict or try to solve it. The differences on social status, educational level, gender or age may become the obstacle. If you have such conditions, then one way that can be used is to appoint a third party (mediator) to help in resolving the conflict. Using mediator in conflict within the Islamic tradition is known as tahkim.
Finally, we can conclude that there are many ways to resolve conflict. We can choose it based on our ability or the situation of conflict. The most important thing is whatever way you choose, you must avoid violence in resolving conflicts. There is no conflict in the world that can be solved by violence because violence always breed another violence.